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Body Confidence - Shine Bright Like a Diamond

Updated: Dec 27, 2022

A lot of women and men approach me saying they are unhappy with their body shape, it really gets to me after a while as all of this media pressure is impacting and making us feel as if we aren't 'perfect', well let me tell you a little secret - no one is perfect even celebrities, they have to live in the gym and have restricted meals the majority of the time in order to keep that persona.

You can work at your body until every inch of it is toned, tanned, firm and fat-free. But if you don’t truly believe that you look great, then it won’t count for much! Research has clearly demonstrated that women who meet the super-slim body ideal are just as likely to be unhappy about their looks as women who do not, which shows that it isn’t so much down to what your body looks like but how you feel about it that counts.

Unfortunately, women are up to 10 times more likely to have a negative body image than men. This is unsurprising when you consider how much emphasis is placed on the ‘thin is beautiful, and beautiful is good’ message in today’s media, along with hashtags of #thinspiration and many more!

Feeling negative about your body is bad news, but the problem tends not to end there. Body dissatisfaction can have just as serious an impact on women’s physical and emotional health as excess weight. There is undoubtedly a link between negative body image and eating disorders, but body image disturbance is also associated with a loss of sexual desire, depression, anxiety, and social introversion, as well as feelings of low self-esteem, failure and irritability. That’s a high price to pay for being at war with your body! But how can we get out of this vicious cycle? Certainly not by dieting, sweating and pummeling your body into the shape you think it should be.

How we see ourselves is not a reality but an illusion. Body image exists only in our mind’s eye, and it changes from moment to moment. That’s why you can feel ‘fatter’ ten minutes after eating a slice of cake, when in actual fact you couldn’t possibly look any different. Accepting this is an important first step in becoming more body confident. You could then try the following exercises, which will also help you on your way to boosting your body image.

Be positive! Become more familiar with your body – for example by looking at your body in the mirror after you’ve had a shower – and focus on aspects of yourself that you like. Acknowledging something you like about your body will shift the emphasis away from the bits you may not like. Also, reflect not only on the parts of your body that you like, but on why you like those bits as well. This will help to challenge your thought processes on what makes someone beautiful or acceptable.

Be alert to your ‘bad body’ triggers - what makes you feel bad about your body? Try to identify your triggers so that you can rationalise why you feel bad when such situations arise. Many simple triggers, such as using a communal changing room at the gym or in a store, can also be easily avoided if you continue to feel bad in those situations.

Get active! Research shows that people who regularly exercise generally have better body images than those who don’t. Experts think this is partly down to being more ‘in touch’ with their bodies through being active – but exercise also ensures that you experience your body from the ‘inside’ rather than the ‘outside’, and helps you to appreciate its abilities. If you exercise more then you’re also likely to become less judgmental of others’ body shapes and sizes. However, you should beware of seeing physical activity as simply another way of manipulating your body into how it ‘should’ be.

Look after yourself - spend some time looking after your body and making yourself look good. You may not be able to slink into a pair of size eight jeans, but that doesn’t mean you can’t have fabulous hair or killer nails! Whether it’s self-administered care, such as rubbing in a luxurious body lotion or keeping your legs stubble-free, or external maintenance, such as a soothing massage or a wash and blow dry at the salon, taking care of your body will tell your subconscious mind that you care about your body and respect it.

Here's a little bit of homework for you, stand in front of a mirror and say this phrase 5 times;

'I am beautiful and I appreciate and love my body'

On the last go, I want you to say it as LOUD as you can!

You are amazing no matter what you think of yourself, take the negativity away and put it on a lily pad and watch the negativity float away down the river!

Also remember what Christina Aguilera sang about;

'You are beautiful no matter what they say Words can't bring you down You are beautiful in every single way Yes, words can't bring you down, So don't you bring me down today...'

Keep smiling!

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